...well so I thought.
This was the belief that I had lived with for the majority of my life. I didn't realise it and lived with it hanging over my life for 50 years.
I can't remember the exact reason that I finally woke up to the fact that I was living with a victim mentality but I am so thankful to God that I did.
I can remember growing up and being told..."your faith will make you different"... "kids at school will see it in you and bully you, but it's ok because you can wear that as a badge of honour". What I didn't realise was that hearing these comment's gave me the victim mentality. I had this belief that I deserved to be treated badly by my friends because that's what God wanted. I believed that people can speak to me any way they want and I have to put up with it. People can exclude me and I just have to sit by myself because that's all I deserve.
I remember spending the majority of my school life sitting on my own and never fitting in. I hated this, hated the loneliness, hated not enjoying school. And it wasn't only school, it was at youth group as well and then later on in my adult working life and relationships. I was alway's the square peg in a round hole...I just never fit. And I still had this belief that this was ok.
This is not ok!!
2 Timothy 1:7 says God has not given us a spirit of fear but of power and love and a sound mind.
I was fearful of what people thought of me, fearful of alway's being the one to stuff something up, fearful that I was alway's going to get things wrong. But believing that I was a victim I also had the mentality that that was the way it was supposed to be because I'm a Christian.
Philippians 4:13 says I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.
Yes, there are times when we will be persecuted for our faith but we are still not a victim. Being a victim is sitting in the corner feeling sorry for yourself. Being a victim is believing the lie that you are not good enough. Being a victim is accepting that people can treat you any way they like and you just have to put up with it. Being a victim is believing that you don't deserve to be treated with respect and honour. Being a victim is believing that the abusive relationship you're in is what you deserve.
Being treated like a victim is not acceptable. This is not ok!!!
You are valuable. You are precious. You are worth respecting. You are to be honoured for being you.
So how did I break free from this victim mentality. I saw it for what it was. I saw the ugliness of it. I saw the darkness of it. I saw the control that it had over my life. I saw the spirit of victimisation for what it really and truly was. I called it out for having robbed me for so many years of my life. Jesus went to the cross for me. Jesus went to gates of hell and took to key's of captivity back. Jesus freed me from any spirit of victimisation that satan thinks he can bind me up with. I bound that spirit of victimisation and sent it straight back to the pit of hell where it belonged.
Jesus didn't go to the cross and shed His blood for nothing. He shed His blood so I can cover my life with it and be protected, healed and whole.
I am no longer a victim ...You are no longer a victim!!